Accepting Criticism

Are you afraid of criticism ? Or are you negligent to advises ? Do you turn a deaf ear to feedback's ? Or do you pretend to be blind to public reviews ? If so then it's sad to say that you have shut the doors to betterment and development. It is now neither possible for you to know whether your work has been admired by people. Nor is it possible for you to improve on your work cause you won't know where to improve on.

Criticism plays a very vital role in our life. And even more important is to accept criticism and advises. Criticisms helps you to know your drawbacks, faults and minus points. And if you really want to change your weaknesses to your strengths then you must accept and be open to criticism. This will act as a resource which will give you and your work an edge above the other's. It can change your life. Criticism also acts as a motivational source in cases where your work is commendable.

But it is often noted that though one is open to criticism, one still feels low when criticized. Well the reason behind this is human psychology. One feels bad because one's work hasn't been appreciated - though for a reason. But when one understands the significance of critics and criticism, then and only then one will favour it and gradually one won't feel low when criticized.

Now, although you may favor criticism, you must ensure that the people criticizing you are 'critic-worthy' people. You must see that the crtics are really criticising you for your betterment. And that the critics have some knowledge in the field of your work. Cause unconstructive criticism could lead to panic and fear of criticism and unnecessary pressure on you.

What you could do is - find some mentors who have a sufficient knowlege base and can tell you what drawbacks your work has. But remember, take criticisms with a poisitve spirit. You can also ask your parents to be a mentor to you. They may have a little less knowledge ( in some cases ) but they'll always want the best for you.

So at the end, you are now, hopefully prepared to keep your ears and eyes open to criticism.  And the next time somebody criticizes your work, don't feel low. Instead, reply with a big 'Thank You'. Go open the doors to the world. Open the doors to reality.

Human feelings

Humans have a unique and complex quality of feelings and expressing feelings. Think of people with blank faces, no expressions, no feelings - just people ( like moving mannequins ) existing on this Earth. Unimaginable. To think of such a situation isn't easy as we have never faced and would never like to face such a situation.

OK , now let's take a step further. An evolution wherein people have feelings but it's hidden deep beneath their thick skin. A situation where people don't know how to express their feelings. This is kind of imaginable as we must have come across or will surely come across  such people in life. Sad for them. But yes, Most of us do have a heart filled with mixed feelings and a highly expressable face. Fortunately we even understand other's feelings... yeah , sometimes it's a lot more complicated; But lets put that bunch in the 'exception tray'.

As I said earlier , feelings are complex. Each feeling is unique and each person expressing the same feeling is unique. A God gifted quality which makes life more interactive, attractive, interesting and amazing. There are numerous feelings but basically we see and clearly distinguish only a few of them.

There are some feelings which others can notice on a persons face, like happiness, sorrow, over-excitement, fear, anger, etc. And there are some of them which is felt only by the person himself, nobody will be able to notice them, like jealously, enmity, doubt, loneliness, empathy, anxiety etc.

Though there could be certain feelings where at times it is visible on the facial expression and gestures and sometimes not, like pride, humility, curiosity, etc.

Therefore, Life =  The mixture of all the various feelings. 

As I am on the verge of completing this article, I am thinking to write about individual feelings. Whatever, it's just a thought that is yet to be processed and later posted. If you regularly read my blog, you'll know when it's posted.

For now, try to use your feelings in a more constructive way. Like understanding people in a better way to live in togetherness, to avoid misunderstandings, to live in unity and peace. Moreover learn to respect each others feelings.

Finale Fever

Months long holiday and complete rest. After giving the most awaited boards, be it be SSC or HSC, and enjoying the even more awaited holidays, it's now time for the results. The results bring in a lot of anxiety in the students. Anxiety, nothing but an eagerness to know the results.For a few number of teens, they learn to rule over anxiety. But for the rest of the majority, Anxiety rules over them.

The most striking feature of anxiety is that it deteriorate s the health of the person. Lack of sleep, nausea,headaches are some of the symptoms. But, if anxiety is backed by stress, then I must tell you, conditions worsen. The cause of stress, here, is the rising competition among students. Competition as to who will finish the race first with the highest percentage.

Due to this there is immense pressure on the student during examinations and during results. And why wont there be when the marks of a student is going to decide which college he/she will be entering into.

Moreover, parents further pressurize their child by asking them to score 90-95% or else they would reduce the child's entertainment activities ( which would have already been reduced ). This hovers a cloud of fear and additional pressure over the student as he has to now not only face the increasing competition but also parental pressure.

Parents play a vital role specially during result time. Parents must support their child and must not force their child to score extraordinary marks, which may be beyond the capacity of the child. Also, a parent must help the child be contented with whatever results he gets. For if you have supported your child during the examinations then you need not worry about the results.

    Points to remember :

→ If you have worked hard enough, success will surely follow you.

→ Be calm and relaxed. If you can't, practice yoga.

→ Always look into the positive aspects of life and assure yourself that your boat will sail smoothly.
For example, say to yourself that - Yes, I will pass-out with flying colors.Yes, I will get into the college of my choice.

→ Whatever happens, happens for the good.

The finale result time ( especially boards and other competitive exams ) is a very crucial point of a students life as well as for the parents. And a student must thus, be mentally prepared to face such a situation.And a parent must learn to support and inculcate a positive vibe in the child.In a supportive environment, a child will pass-out out with triumphant results.

All the Best :D

Feel their presence..

This story is of a nuclear family who had recently purchased a new home and were doing up the interiors. They had received a bunch of plant's as a house warming gift. But they didn't know who gifted it to them as there was nothing written. They even didn't know what these plant's were for. They tried hard to search about this plant but to no success. Not knowing what to do with the plant's, they decided to just keep it with them.

Month's later life became busier than expected and the family had no time to take care of the plant's. Heating up in the sun without water, the plant's finally decided to dry up. The family then realised, lately, that all the plants had crippled and had dried up.
 

Later after many month's an article had appeared about this plant. It was written that this plant was rare and had high medicinal value. It also said that this plant was not known to many. On reading this, the family realised thier loss.

On the same lines, in life, we don't realize the importance of some people when they are there near us. Maybe they would just be lying in our phone book or present in our facebook-friend list.They may be just there in our life but we might have never realized their importance.  But only when they leave us and depart somewhere else we realize their significance. We understand the value of their presence. But alas, it would have been too late then.

In the story above, they had lost all the plant's they had. Unfortunately they were rare and would not be readily available to plant it again. Even if they had planted fresh one's again, it wouldn't be the same they had lost. But when you lose a person ( may be forever...or due to some differences or no contact's  ) you cannot bring him back or plant him back again. In life you'll befriend new people. But you'll not get the same person again. What is lost, is lost forever. In case the separation was due to disagreement's and fortunately it's solved then and only then they could reunite.

Thus, I would request all the reader's to realize the importance of each and every person in your life as he/she is there with you and don't wait for that person to part way's from you. Give each and every person the feeling of 'Yes, I am there for you'. And you'll see that they will be there for you.